How to Practice Self-Kindness Every Day

How to Practice Self-Kindness Every Day


One of the most important things I’ve done over the past few years is create a better relationship with myself; which I’ve done in part by practicing self-kindness.

For most of my life I’ve struggled with a tumultuous relationship with myself, and as a result I’ve been unkind in the way I’ve treated myself. But, by practicing self-kindness, I’ve learned to accept myself authentically and am more happy and healthy, both mentally and physically.

My self-kindness practice looks different on a day to day basis, but there are three things I do regularly as part of my own routine which I highly recommend that everyone tries in their own lives, regardless of what your own self-kindness practice might look like (or if you even have one). 


Do something nice for yourself every day, and don’t feel guilty about it

I always interpreted putting my needs and wants first as an act of selfishness and vanity – and felt guilty whenever I wanted to do something nice for myself. This was a huge mistake because I conditioned myself to feel like I wasn’t worthy of my own time, needs and wants.

What I’ve since realized is how important it is to do nice things for myself, which has helped me be a more kind, loving, happy and balanced person.

It’s also made me a better person in relationships with my family, friends and peers. In giving myself the space and permission to be more kind with myself, I’m more kind and understanding with others.

Doing something nice for yourself every day doesn’t have to equate to anything big. For me, this could be sleeping in late on the weekend to rest my body, going to a yoga class in the middle of the day, getting a facial, buying myself my favorite latte and treat (and taking time to sit down and enjoy it), or going for a long walk during my lunch break at work even though the emails in my inbox are piling up.

The key is to take time for you, and know it’s perfectly okay to do so.


Don’t be afraid to say no

I have a problem with saying yes to everything. On one hand, I have a fear of letting people down. On the other, I’m afraid on what I’ll miss out on if I say no. However, this means I often say yes to things I don’t really want to do, or honestly don’t have the time for.

I’m in the practice of saying ‘no’ more powerfully, and being kind to myself for making that choice. This has helped me create more space for the things that truly make me happy and light me up. It has also allowed me to create space in my personal schedule, so I don’t feel over-committed and overwhelmed.


Say one positive affirmation about yourself, every day

Self-kindness and self-love go hand in hand - you can’t be kind to yourself without loving yourself at the same time.

I show myself love, by saying one positive affirmation about myself each morning when I do my daily check-in in front of the bathroom mirror.

This has had a huge, positive impact on my self-confidence and mental psyche. In comparison to prior years where I’d look in the mirror and criticize myself. Now, whenever I look in the mirror I like what I see - and this has allowed me create space for positivity and love in all other aspects of my life.




Psssssst, the Wellness Team at Mndsight has dedicated the month of December to spreading kindness; it's our very own Kindness Challenge. Over the next 31 days, local entrepreneurs and community movers and shakers will be sharing their own tips about how YOU can spread kindness this month, delivered to your inbox every morning. Sign up to receive their little nuggets of wisdom and join the challenge by clicking  here.  

-Kailey Buchanan